They tell me I simply need to let it be; to pay no mind. But how is such a thing possible? The anguish that was caused; the heartache; the grief; these are attributes of my character, in the sense that they have shaped my emotional, intellectual and mental understanding of the world, of people, and the way in which these things interact with one another.
Wait, scratch that. I know it’s possible to let it be. After all, if I don’t, then he’s winning.
But, what if I don’t want to? What if I need him to play the role of the tormentor? What if I need to relegate him to evil, dictatorial villain?
What if I need to know that a person like that will struggle, experience hardship?
Don’t I have some say as to how he does this? Am I not part of the social barometer that demonizes infidelity, abuse, hypocrisy? If not, then who? Not, quite assuredly, god; the latter of which I find to be especially frustrating. To live forever, after this? Really?
Presumably psychologists would say that I was losing it; that I, to some degree, am failing to see the picture. I beg to differ. It’s really quite simple.
A is evil.
A causes B pain.
B’s pain surfaces when A’s damaging effects are witnessed within context of familial structure.
In order to absolve pain, B must do one of two things:
B can steer clear of the rest of family.
B can implement the “A as villain” approach.
If option 1 occurs, B suffers.
If option 2 occurs, B finds solace.
Or perhaps B needs to get over it.